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Why Soul Restoration?


I love to teach Soul Restoration.  There are so many reasons why I love to teach this material.  The number one reason that I feel called to continue teaching this course is that of the light and love that I see shining in the eyes of the women who have gone through the curriculum that is shining brighter and deeper than it was when we began.  Through the connections I’ve made in Soul Restoration workshops my belief in Sisterhood across the world has multiplied and intensified.  There is so much love, power, and beauty all over the world.

Does that mean that your life has to be in a really sad place in order to reap the benefits of this course?  NO!  I believe that you already have inside of you every single thing that is good and that you need to be successful and to move forward in your beautiful adventure.  I also know that as we are on our journey through life that experiences and expectations press upon us, sometimes so intensely that we can get mixed up in thinking that we need something outside of us to bring us joy or to make us valuable.

This work has brought me joy and hope when I’ve spent time in dark places with pain and hurt washing over me like strong waves.  This work has also brought me love and light when I’m experiencing great seasons where I feel like I am learning and growing.  Through Soul Restoration I love to witness other re-discovering the strength inside of them that has been buried and worn down.  The original you is still in there and it is time to restore back to who you have always been.


I’ve had friends who joined my classes thinking that it’s an artsty-craftsy weekly get together.  While there is a small amount of creative work that we do (with the option to do much more at home, and I hope you will because it is fun), the aim is to spend time in deep reflection, have active conversations in a safe place, and connect to other wonderful women.  You will experience a guided meditation, challenging questions, uplifting experiences, soul deep commitments to yourself, and a lot of encouragement to journal about your emotions and experiences.  I will facilitate the class in real time each week, whether we are meeting online or in person.     I hope you join me!



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Your first and Last Love should always be YOURSELF.

Love yourself today and everyday.

Show yourself self respect and give yourself the chance to change your mind, listen to your heart, protect what is most precious to you and begin again each day.


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Let’s stop playing small


I love this quote by Nelson Mandela.  There is such a great temptation in life to just play small and tell ourselves that we don’t deserve to chase our dreams and live the way we have always dreamed.

It is a great reminder to myself that I get to make choices each day to either lead me towards the life I want or to keep me stuck where I have always been.

This journey is what led me on my path to homeschool my children and stop running all over town signing them up for 3 different sports and activities; a piece.   I’m not saying that is wrong for anyone, I just came to know that it did not feel good to me.  I began thinking about how I would love for a weeknight or weekend to go and how it would feel and what it would include.  As we had these discussions as a family we realized we love hiking together, staying in our pajamas until noon sometimes, and having a big breakfast together.  We learned that we did not love splitting up in 3 different directions on a Saturday and fighting traffic and crowded parking lots.

Sometimes it is easier to know what we do not want than it is to know what we do want.  If that is the case for you start there, and work backwards.

I hope you ask yourself this question today “What do I want my life to feel like every day?”

Because you deserve to have it feel beautiful, fulfilled, challenging, exciting and fun.


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Process Stitching

I have struggled with finding the right ‘term’ to label this.  I go around and around with it and I keep coming back to the fact that the PROCESS is what makes the making so enjoyable. keepadding

There is that part of creating a new project where you take someone else’s instructions and you follow them and you know exactly what you are going to get at the end.  Then there is the type of creating where you really sit and do it to enjoy the process and you love the doing.processpieces

I will use a quilt I am working on currently as an example.  When I sit down to sew I am not just sewing.  I am thinking, processing, feeling the softness of the fabric and carefully chosing out what patterns I love and cutting the pieces to fit my favorite parts.  I’m not concerned with the outcome at this point.  I’m loving the chance to take small pieces of different fabrics and turn them into a large creation that I love.  I challenge you to try it.  Try it in any form that you enjoy.  Have a rough idea in your mind or in a sketch of the finished product but don’t be so hooked on how it has to end that you don’t enjoy what is happening ALONG THE WAY.  Listen to yourself.  Create intuitively.  enjoy the process.  littlepiecestogether

I guarantee you that when you wholly enjoy the process of creation you will always be happy with your finished product in one way or another.  When you look at that piece you will think of what you learned or thought about during it’s creation.  You will remember that each piece had meaning and purpose to you.  You will love it that much more because it has you in it.  Maybe you will get to the end and you will say ‘that was so much fun now I’m going to change it into something even better’.  That’s ok too!  It’s all part of the PROCESS.  Life is a process and we are a work in progress.  It makes sense to me then that this comes out in all that I do.puttingpiecestogetherThis is an example of how I look for similar length pieces to begin to put them all together.  Then I just keep adding.   When I get to the larger pieces there is some slicing to get things to fit together but that’s part of the fun!  Whatever I slice off I use for adding to another block.

This quilt which I named my ‘She Did it Anyway quilt’ was born of emotion.  shediditanyway

As I worked through the deepest parts of these emotions in my soul I made a word with fabric.  I didn’t use a pattern because a pattern could not have walked me through those emotions.  The creative process is what worked me through each of those emotions at that time in my life.  words

Whatever I create in my future this quilt will always be one of my precious creations.  I will always remember that time in my life and the emotions I was working through [which or course many of them come back around in life which I why I keep creating}!nameback

For the back of this quilt I sewed my name and the year.  This was such an emotional project that I really wanted to sign and date it just like a huge canvas or book I had written.  I think it is so important to put yourself into your art in whatever form you work in.  I hope you do, and I hope you love the process!



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Truth Card Gatherings

I will be having truth card gatherings on a regular basis for the remainder of 2016.  I have listed below the upcoming planned nights.  I would love to have you join me!

Join me in my home as we talk about how to combat the lies that swirl around us on a daily basis.

We will make truth cards for you to go home with that you can place anywhere you would like to remind you are the magnificene that is inside of you.  This is a fun filled, creative, friendship building night that will not disappoint!

August 25, 2016 7 – 9 pm

September 21, 2016 7-9pm


Cost is $25 per person and this includes all of your art supplies needed.  If you want to bring a journal and a pair of scissors that is great but not necessary.  Please contact me at to reserve your spot!



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How do you hold a moonbeam in your hands?


A lot of people are quite familiar with the story of Maria VonTrapp.  Perhaps you have seen the musical, or the movie, or heard the music.  Chances are you know and love the Maria who thought she would be a nun but instead who fell in love with Captain VonTrapp {but mostly}  his seven children.

As I recently became reaquainted with this story I found myself fascinated with the whole of Maria’s life.  I believe her true courage came when she and her husband took their family on tour and chose to leave their home land and then settle in the United States of America.  I learned about WHO she really was and what she did and the example she was to her children.  Her story is the story of an overcomer.  The VonTrapp family is beloved becuase they triumphed above so many circumstances that they could have stayed stuck in.  Maria was not a perfect person and isn’t that refreshing to know as well?  She was imperfect and she did her best and she took care of her 10 children with willpower and never gave up.


It also made me think about how this is so much what a life really is — we are not just one small part of our story or one great thing that we chose or accomplished.  Who we are is a combination of all of our life experiences, choices, accomplishments, failures, loves, and lessons learned.  We are also not only our weaknesses but are the whole of our strengths and weaknesses.  This gave me a great perspective — and has made me feel so empowered to believe in all that is still going to come into my life and all the possibilities of the future.  I’m so thankful for what I have learned up to this point in my life and I feel grateful that I get to contine forward with what I know now.  Life is an amazing, instructive journey.  We have so many choices about how we want to move forward, just like Maria did.  I’m inspired by her to choose good things and to never give up.  I hope you are as well!


I hope that someday my story will be worthy of being told in spite of my shortcomings and faults.  I hope that my story will be told because I never gave up and I kept showing love every chance I could!


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Get in the Messy


boywithgrandpaIt’s ok to do the messy things.  Life is messy.  family is messy.  Last week we wrapped up a family reunion for my immediate family.  I am one of eight children and my parents have 26 grandchildren with 2 more on the way.  The family reunion was big and messy and tiring and hard work.  By messy I mean that it took a ton of coordination and flexibility and paper plates and dishes and candy wrappers and trash bags and dirty socks and dirty swim towels and over-tired, crabby children.  We used band aids and brought junk back to Grandma and Grandpa’s house from Garage Sale Wars that they did not want or need.  {Like this bucket of golf balls}


It was also one of the best experiences my family will have this entire year.  We made irreplacable memories, we laughed, we cried, we gave each other grace, we had a visit from a storm trooper, and we loved each other.  It was AWESOME!familureuniongroup2016

I know when you mention the words ‘ family reunion’ a lot of people get the idea that you are in for a miserable experience.  When we were at costco buying all the food we had some comments about that.  The thing is, if you approach it with the understanding that the entire reason we are getting together is to create good memories and because we LOVE each other it makes a big difference!  We are not getting together to compare, show off, or tell each other how to live.  Is it a huge, tiring effort by all involved?  Yes.  Is there a cost involved?  Yes, there always is with everything in life.  Is it worth it?  YES.


I see it a lot like doing paint, glitter, and play dough with your children.  Sure, life can be “easier” if you ban those things from your house because they make life messy.  But LOOK WHAT YOU WOULD BE MISSING OUT ON if you banned those things from your life!


Messy is ok.  Messy is real and it is fun and we learn from it.  It takes effort and it is supposed to, that’s the way it was designed.  It’s also beautiful, fun, colorful, exploratory, creative, exciting, and creates great memories.  When life is in the messy parts let’s try to enoy what comes out of it istead of worrying so much about what we might have to clean up.  Families make messes, art makes messes, and living life full makes messes.  But I’m going to be ok with the messy because I love families, art and living life on purpose.  I hope you do too!


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Summertime Peace for Mothers… 10 Suggestions

woman resting on shoulder of  horse lying outdoors under  tree in sunset

As a homeschooling mother I feel like I have a pretty good idea of what it is like to have children at home when you are still trying to accomplish daily life requirements and take care of yourself as a mother.  With the exception of my oldest who chose to attend an early college high school this year my other six children are home with me all the time.  I love my lifestyle and I choose it again every day.  I also know what it feels like to need some time to myself and I understand that children sometimes need to be directed into positive activities that I fully support.

I wanted to share a few tips for others who may be wondering how they can get through summer feeling calm and peaceful and having your children home.


  1.  Ask your children for a top 10 list of what would make their summer great.  Really listen to what they want to do and try to put aside what YOU want to do for a few minutes.  You may be surprised.  Often the activities that my family loves most and has the best memories of are simple activities that don’t take a lot of time, money, or planning to do.  Maybe several of the activities suggested are desired by all family members.  For example, in the summer we love to attend local, small town rodeos.  We go to the parade in the morning and make an entire day of it, packing lunch and staying for the late afternoon rodeo.  By the end of the day we have spent about $100 total for my family of 9 (including tickets that we purchased before the event) and have had such a great time together.  My children prefer this type of activity to time at the local trampoline park or other crowded location where many parents are looking for entertainment.  Another favorite is a fireside night of making smores and singing songs.  Children LOVE this and it is simple to do.boywalkinguphill
  2. Turn off screens and get outside.  I can guarantee you that children today need more outside play.  They need time to lie in the grass and look for recognizable shapes in the clouds.  They need time to run and jump and pick flowers and get dirty.  Set a timer for 2 hours and give them some ideas and let them go.  At first maybe they will feel like they don’t know what to do, but if they know you are serious about being outdoors they will begin coming up with their own play.  This past week my children had cousins over and came up with an intense set up for cowboys and indians.  They did a lot more dressing up to play than play and the dressing up became part of the play.  It was delightful to watch and amazing to see the age span that came together for at least 4 hours of play.kidsplaycowboysandindians
  3. Remain firm on a regular bedtime.  This is a sanity saver for parents.  With warmer temperatures and more time outside in sun and swimming pools your children will be exhausted by the end of the day!  The times when I see poor behavior in my children are most often connected with being sleep deprived.  Play hard all day, go to bed at a reasonable hour, and then wake up for another day of play and fun.  It is important for you as a mother to have this time at night to enjoy the quiet house and to take time to listen to your own soul and get the rest you need as well.  You need to get your sleep too!  The rule over here is 8pm for the kiddos and 10pm for the parents.  Of course their are exceptions when we do an outside movie night with the projector, fireworks and things like that.  Those events end up being just that, exceptions, but regular bed time is always the rule.  I need time to unwind and read a little in bed before I am ready to sleep and this gives me a chance to do some evening work on the computer as well.
  4. Stock up on some basic supplies that will always be available to fight boredom.  My short list includes sidewalk chalk, a big jug of water that is filled up outside (or cases of water), water balloons, a good sprinkler, bubbles, crayons, markers, watercolors, construction paper and glue sticks.  Gather the outdoor items into a bucket that you keep in the garage or back yard and then another bucket that you keep inside.  If you begin to hear about boredom give them the option of either creating from one of the buckets, reading a good book, or helping with a chore:).  Given that list they will most likely get busy with an activity bucket.babywithbubbles
  5. Keep the morning routine consistent.  No matter what time of year it is, my children know that I expect them to brush their teeth and hair, make their bed, say prayers, tidy their bedroom and put clean laundry away.  They know they should not even ask me about another activity unless the basics are done.  We all feel happy when we accomplish things and take care of our own spaces.  This gives children the ability to learn to care for themselves while also lightening your load in the mornings.  It is important to make sure that everyone knows what their basics are and that they stay consistent.  Don’t add extra things on each day or give a super long list that can be discouraging.  This list should be able to be accomplished in 20 minutes and should be 5 or 6 things maximum.  Try not to ‘stack’ on their list, either.  My children do well with specific, single items they can accomplish.  When I say things like ‘take out the garbage, then clean up the front yard and sweep the porch’ they feel overwhelmed by the stack of things to accomplish.  Instead I can say ‘here is your daily morning list.  On Thursday morning part of that list is taking out the trash’.  Then later in the day when we are getting ready for dinner and bedtime I ask for specific things like ‘please spend 5 mintues sweeping the porch’.
  6. “Close” the kitchen in between meal times.  Often when children are not sure what to do next or when they are thirsty they go looking for food.  Serve your meals and then make an announcment that the kitchen is closed until the next meal.  In the mean time let them know where they can have plenty of water and a snack if they need it.  I leave a bowl of carrots or fruit on the counter that is always available but the fridge and pantry are off limits.  I leave a water jug outside and I have a low cupboard with plastic cups easily accessible for drinks of water and ice from the fridge dispenser.  Some afternoons I will offer a popsicle or ice cream cone but again this is an exception and not the rule.
  7. Establish an afternoon ‘Quiet Time’.  This is a life saver for mothers.  Between the hours of 2 and 4 pm our bodies need a little boost to get through the rest of the day.  This is a great time for me to lie in ‘corpse pose’ for 10 minutes and replenish my adrenals while my children are quietly playing.  They know that I am not to be disturbed during this time (ours is an hour long).  This may be time you use returning some emails or reading or resting yourself.  Set the peramaters that you are comfortable with.  The rule at our home is that they can be playing with each other in their bedrooms as long as it is quiet and everyone is speaking kindly to each other.  When we are struggling with kindness then people need to split to their own spaces and read a book.  All of my children share bedrooms so the home is open to other areas where they can seek quiet space as long as it does not interfere with me or someone else.
  8. Put the house to bed each night.  Let the House go a little bit during the day.  I know, you may already hate me for even suggesting it.  All I’m saying is that how immaculate your home is has NOTHING to do with your value as a human being or as a mother.  It is ok if you don’t get to all of the sorting and deep cleaning for a month or two while you are enjoying summer.  Those things are not going anywhere and when your children head back to school and your schedule gets in a new groove you can address them.  Don’t run around all day cleaning up everything that has happened during the day.  Allow the day to unfold and the play to happen.  Then, after your evening meal, everyone has a responsibility to help until the house is back in order.  No one is finished until it is acceptable to mom.  The way we do this is that one person is the ‘Boss’ each night.  On their night of the week their responsibility is to load the dishwasher and wash the pots and pans.  All other jobs they get to assign to others.  The big perk for the Boss is that they get the music remote in their pocket and they get to pick the play list we listen to as we clean up.  For me I feel so great having help putting things back in order and I love seeing everyone help.  I love knowing that the kitchen is ready to start fresh the next morning and that the house is vaccuumed and in order.  This is a huge piece of CALM and PEACE for me!
  9. Make good friends with your local library.  There is a difference between children reading for school and summer reading.  Summer is a time for them to explore new books, silly books, maybe even books well below their reading level that are just for fun.  Summer is a time to read just for the pure love of reading.  This is a perfect time to check out those ‘how to’ books or for them to try learning to sketch from books or trying other new things.  Set a regular libaray trip and try some new books.  This is another way to help with the ‘I’m bored’ chant.  If there is always a supply on hand of new material to discover or read you can always have that as a go to for an activity.  Your local library may also offer awesome summer reading programs with great prizes like ours does.  We love our local libraries and the friendly librarians who help my children find just what they are looking for.girlreading
  10. Remember that LOVE IS ALWAYS THE ANSWER.  Give yourself some grace.  Remember that you are the mother for your children because you were specifically hand picked by an all-knowing, all loving God who knows your special set of strengths and abilities.  Quite possibly the most important thing you will do for your children this summer is to love them for who they are, where they are, and for all the little moments of joy they bring to your life.  Take time to love yourself and acknowledge that every day you get up, show up, and do you best. I believe in you.  You are loved.
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Don’t look for the Easy Button

You know what I’m talking about, right?  That EASY button we’ve all seen on ads that sounds deceptively dreamy.  The one that promises that if you just had a magic button so that someone else could do all of the work for you that life would be all grand parties, ice cream cones, no exercise, no dirty laundry, and endless bliss.

The more I work through the daily tasks of life that take time, energy, money the more I realize that indeed there is much we learn in the doing.  I’ll give you an example.  This week I have spent time pulling the grass out of my flower beds and restoring them back to flower beds.  While I was pulling up the plants that I do want to keep there and sifting through the root balls to get the grass roots out and then re-planting the flowers that I do love I began thinking about all of it a little bit more.


Isn’t this how life is?  It would have been a lot easier for me to dig the entire section out with a skid steere, remove everything and start from the beginning.  It would also cost me a small fourtune which I do not have to spend on flower beds ( or any other project I dream of when on pinterest for that matter).  And the plants that I already have are mature plants that produce A LOT of beautiful blooms.  I have spent years collecting the diverse plants and some are quite hard to find.  So I’ve been sitting out there digging through, sorting out what needs to go so that what stays is unencumbered by something competing for light and water and care.

I’m wanting to be consistently mindful about sorting myself.  What if we all spent time each day, week, month, year sorting out what has somehow taken root in us that doesn’t have a place there?  Are there things in your life that are competing with your soul for light, nourishment, and love?  I’m not suggesting that you call it all a loss and start over – there is too much invested and so much value.  I am suggesting some weeding out.  Maybe all you can do is pull one things at a time that doesn’t fit there.  Each time you remove something that dosen’t belong you make more room for your soul to bloom and grow.


There is not an ‘easy’ button for this type of sorting in life.  No one else can do it in your life because they have their life to sort.  And even if you could use the easy button and have someone else do it they would remove things that you still need or want becuase they don’t know your heart and soul inside deep down like you do.  Or maybe they would leave too much.

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When you get to the end you spent some time in the sun, remembered again the beauty around you, and had a chance to reminisce on all the time, seasons, and experiences that led you to this point.  It feels good to have the dirt on your hands, knowing that you nurtured and restored things back to where they can again grow with their full potential.

No easy button needed, after all.


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What is Soul Restoration, Anyway?

Emily & Melody Ross: 2011

Soul Restoration is a course develped by Melody Ross and made popular at Brave Girl Camp.  Here is what Brave Girls Club has to say about it:

“Soul Restoration is a method of helping each woman become reacquainted with her deepest self by remembering and reuniting with her inner “Truth-teller”. She will be helped to discern truth from lies that hold her back and make her feel like less than she is… to remember her dreams, her potential, her gifts and talents, all the possibilities and unique answers for her life (because it is different for everyone). This curriculum is intended to enable each woman to find and the keep the bravery she needs to stay joyfully true to her own path.

This class has been proven to be an effective and enjoyable process that helps every woman to really think about and hear her own soul again… to help her remember what brings her the most joy, to know of and remember all of the things she is good at and that make her heart sing…to get back on track and to unleash the courage and motivation to stay on track… to reunite with her soul.

Soulful living requires bravery…and bravery helps put aside voices that are confusing, judgmental and opinionated. The Soul Restoration Curriculum is intended to continue long after the course is completed… giving each woman a set of skills and beautiful tools that will carry her throughout her life.”


I can only speak for my own experience with Soul Restoration.  When I went through the curriculum for the first time I was at a time in my life where I was very broken.  I needed to keep going and wasn’t sure how I was going to do that.

What I found was a wonderful path for me to walk, reminders to get myself back in line with my truth teller (for me this is Father in Heaven) and peace.  I’ve also found life long soul sisters, the freedom to unleash my inner artist, and love unbounded.  I believe you will find the same.